Workshops on Self-Esteem, Stress, Peace,

and the Dynamics of Bullies and Victims

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"ME AND YOU, KID"

BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM IN THE ADULT-CHILD SYSTEM

w/ "The 90 Second Child Self-Esteem Prescription Plan"

dvd of this workshop available at www.FixedEarthFilms.com

VICTIMS, ABUSERS/BULLIES, & SURVIVORS:

THE DYNAMICS OF SELF-ESTEEM IN AGGRESSION AND/OR VIOLENCE  

dvd of this workshop available at www.FixedEarthFilms.com

CHILDHOOD STRESS- "INTRUSIONS INTO THE MAGIC KINGDOM"

  dvd of this workshop available at www.FixedEarthFilms.com

BUILDING PEACE  W/ CHILDREN, FAMILY, & COLLEAGUES AT HOME, SCHOOL, & WORK

"ME AND YOU, KID"

FORMAT:

Lecture and Discussion- Participants are encouraged to make the workshop more relevant to their concerns by asking questions.

DESCRIPTION:

The presentation uses the building of a house as a metaphor for teaching how the adults' forming of their own self-esteem and psychological health are the foundation to building the self-esteem of children.  Seven fundamentals to creating the foundation in the adult-child system to build self-esteem.  Seven guidelines to building self-esteem in the child.  This theoretical knowledge is presented with practical techniques.

SUMMARY OF CONTENT:

1) The role that Self-Esteem plays in our lives and society.

            Abusers, Victims, & Survivors- The Differential Outcomes of Ineffective to Effective Self-Esteem Building.

2) Where Self-Esteem begins and Where and How it begins to be lost.

            The self-concept, behavior, environment and feedback endless loop.

3) Acceptance, Power & Control, Moral Virtue, and Competence- The four cornerstones of Self-esteem.

4) THE FOUNDATION: Seven fundamentals to  building Self-Esteem in the Adult-Child System.

            Building the foundation as the hardest part of the process, but also as the most fundamental and vital part.

            The sequence of building.  The logic of the process as it relates to personal growth and psycho-developmental dynamics.

5) THE BUILDING: Seven guidelines to Building Self-Esteem in Children.

            How Adults usually start the process without the foundation.  The consequences of starting the process without the foundation.

            The importance of handing over the task of building to the child.

6) The Trap & the Message of being the Perfect Parent or Perfect Teacher.

VICTIMS, ABUSERS/BULLIES, & SURVIVORS:

THE DYNAMICS OF SELF-ESTEEM IN AGGRESSION AND/OR VIOLENCE

      dvd of this workshop available at www.FixedEarthFilms.com

OVERVIEW: This workshop makes the connections between aggression, violence, and self-esteem as they develop in children.  The developmental processes of the victim, abuser/bully, and survivor are discussed with reference to parenting styles, both positive and problematic.  Methods are presented to build self-esteem in children and to protect them from becoming abusers/bullies and/or victims.  The 90 Second-A-Day Child Self-Esteem Prescription Plan brings together these principles in simple but powerful interactions between adults and children.

1) WHAT'S IMPORTANT ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM?

            Abusers, Victims, Watchers (peer bullies), Survivors, and Activists

2) VIOLENCE as BULLYING

            Repetition, Aggression, Negative Intent, and Power Difference

            Behavior, Verbalization To, and Verbalization About

            RELATIONAL AGGRESSION (gender differences)      

3) WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM MADE UP OF?

            ACCEPTANCE, POWER & CONTROL, MORAL VIRTUE, & COMPETENCE

4) ABUSERS & BULLIES in terms of VIOLENCE/AGGRESSION

  and the Search for Acceptance, Power & Control, Moral Virtue, & Competence

            Problems; Causes, Characteristics

            THE COERCION PARENTING MODEL

            NONCONTINGENT PARENTING

            RELATIONAL AGGRESSION

            THE REACTIVE BULLY- Both Bully & Victim

5) VICTIMS in terms of VIOLENCE/AGGRESSION

  and the Search for Acceptance, Power & Control, Moral Virtue, & Competence

            ANXIOUS VULNERABILITY

            NON-CONFLICT SUBMISSIVENESS

6) SURVIVORS in terms of VIOLENCE/AGGRESSION

  and the Search for Acceptance, Power & Control, Moral Virtue, & Competence

            VERBAL FLUENCY

7) WHERE & HOW IS SELF-ESTEEM (victims and bullies) CREATED?

8) HOW TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM

            AS AN ALTERNATIVE TO VIOLENCE (BULLY/ABUSER)

            AS PREVENTION OF VICTIMIZATION

CHILDHOOD STRESS

"INTRUSIONS INTO THE MAGIC KINGDOM"

dvd of this workshop available at www.FixedEarthFilms.com

FORMAT:

Lecture and Discussion- Participants are encouraged to make the workshop more relevant to their concerns by asking questions.

DESCRIPTION:

Focus is on helping adults understand how stress is appropriate and essential to healthy development.  What makes stress potentially harmful.  How becoming stress "free" aborts opportunities for growth.  The relationship between stress and self-esteem is explored.  Developmental theory is used to illustrate the different stress issues at different ages.  These concepts are made real, understandable, and applicable to the dynamics between adults and  children through the use of examples.  Implications for effective adult interactions with children are discussed.

SUMMARY OF CONTENT:

I. Stress- Concerns, Fears, & Effects

            SELF-ESTEEM and Stress

            The FLIGHT OR FIGHT PRINCIPLE

            Maturity & Immaturity- Successful Stress & Stress Avoidance

II. The Development of a Child's World

III. Diagnostic Areas for Stress Evaluation and Treatment- The Diagnostic Hierarchy

            Dangers from Misdiagnosis

 A. Developmental Issues: 

  1) Piaget Cognitive Development

  2) Erickson's Ages of Man

 B. Situational Issues

 C. Physical Issues

 D. Emotional Disruptive Issues

 E. Temperamental Issues

 F. Systemic Issues: Family, School, Societal/Cultural

 G. Pathological Issues

 H. Moral Issues

IV. The Stress Process: Stress Builders and Stress Releasers

BUILDING PEACE  W/ CHILDREN, FAMILY, & COLLEAGUES

AT HOME, SCHOOL, & WORK

OVERVIEW: This workshop makes the connections between individual self-esteem in children and their involvement in the peace process.  Peace is examined from the perspective of consistency among all relationships from ones relationship with children (or with parents), with peers, friends, colleagues, the community and the world.  The role of social and communication skills and conflict resolution skills in peace processes. The developmental processes of the victim, abuser/bully, and survivor are discussed with reference to parenting styles, both positive and problematic.  Lessons from successful adolescent interactions are incorporated into the peace building model. Methods are presented to build self-esteem in children and to protect them from becoming abusers/bullies and/or victims and to promote the development of peacemakers.

1)      CONSISTENCY AND THE PEACE PROCESS

         Peace despite frustration and anger in the discipline process with children.

         Peace as a couple; Peace as a family; Peace at work; Peace in the community; Peace in the world community.

2)      PEACE AS MORE THAN THE ABSENCE OF VIOLENCE

         Boundaries in the Process of Peace

         Harmony versus Peace

         Unity, Connection, Trust, and Intimacy in Peace

3)      CONFLICT RESOLUTION AND THE PEACE PROCESS

4)      ABUSERS & BULLIES & PERPRETATORS; VICTIMS; AND SURVIVORS

         Violence between Individuals and Patterns of Behavior

5)  FOUNDATIONS OF PEACE BETWEEN INDIVIDUALS- A model derived from Adolescent Work;  R.I.P.S., a communication model

6) THE IDEAL SELF VERSUS THE REAL SELF

         Invoking and Evoking – Challenging and Raising Internalized Standards of Behavior

7) PRINCIPLES OF PEACE FROM SELF-ESTEEM THEORY AND PRACTICE

         Significance, Moral Virtue, Power & Control, and Competence

8) ADULT FOUNDATIONS TO SELF-ESTEEM AND PEACE- 7 KEYS

9) GUIDELINES TO BUILDING SELF-LOVING PEACEMAKERS

10) PEACE AND THE ACTIVIST- LESSONS FROM THE ANTI-BIAS CURRICULUM