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Introduction: COMMUNICATIONS ORIENTED THERAPY
COMMENTINGCOMPLAININGCRITICIZINGCONTEMPTDEFENSIVENESSDISCONNECT EMOTIONALLYDIVORCE
TERMINATION
BLOCKED OR INAPPROPRIATE EXPRESSION OF FEELINGSCOVERT COMMUNICATIONOPEN VS. CLOSED COMMUNICATION
CONGRUENCE AND CONNECTIONSTANCESGAMES
SIGNIFICANCEMORAL VIRTUREIDEAL SELF vs. REAL SELFCOUPLES AND MORAL VIRTUE
COMMUNAL POWER AND CONTROLPASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR
I) KNOW ONESELFII) BEING A MODEL OF SELF-LOVEIII) TAKE CARE OF ONESELF…FIRST!IV) BE AVAILABLEV) CONTRACT OF AVAILABILITYVI) SEPARATE- THERE'S TWO, NOT ONEVII) DISTINGUISH LOVE AND LIKEVIII) UNDERSTAND THE OTHER
I) VALIDATE THE OTHER PERSONII) HOLD RESPONSIBILE W/O SHAME, BLAME, & FAULTSPLIT MILK LEAVES NO STAINSIII) NO ABUSE ALLOWEDIV) SELFCAREV) CHALLENGE / EXPECTATIONS VS. PUSH/DEMANDSVI) APPROPRIATE PRAISEPOTENTIAL AND THE INNER FRAUDVII) INTERNALIZED MOTIVATION
DOING THE HARD THINGSELF-ESTEEM & PERFECTION
MESSAGES OF WORTH
A TRUFFLE a WEEK