OVERVIEW: This workshop examines when boundaries are necessary in children’s lives and how they are effective…and when they are ineffective. The limitations to boundary setting for growth and change. Boundary setting as the foundation for the growth and change process. Implicit and explicit messages given in boundary setting that affirm or compromise effectiveness. In addition, the internal boundary distinctions adults need to understand in order to discipline appropriately. Developmental principles and adjustments to boundary setting from preschool to adolescence will also be examined.
1. INTERVENTIONS— The Relationship of “The Hammer” to Assessment and Theory
2. TIMEOUT THEORY—FOUR THEORIES OF TIMEOUT Three Problematic Theories and One Socially Sound Theory
3. PERMISSION FOR IRRESPONSIBILITY Socialization—Individual and Community Concerns
4. POSITIVE & NEGATIVE CHOICES and POSITIVE & NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES
5. TRUE CHOICE & LEARNING CONSEQUENCES
6. MESSAGES FROM BOUNDARIES- Distinctions Between Blame, Shame, Fault, Guilt, and Responsibility
7. COMMUNICATION BOUNDARIES AND ISSUES— “Fighting about the Garbage”
Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication - Overt & Covert Communication
Direct & Indirect Communication
8. LIMITS DERIVED FROM YOUR LEVEL OF FRUSTRATION
9. BOUNDARIES FROM SYMBOLISM FROM CULTURAL HERITAGE (including Family of Origin Issues)
10. BOUNDARIES AS EXCLUSION & DANGER vs. THE CONTAINER OF SAFETY
11. CONTEXT FOR BOUNDARIES- Time, “Now” & “Not Now,” Transitions