Yeah, Freddie is 18 and Lana is 15. They’re both doing great. They’re both getting great grades. Freddie is really into soccer. He made the varsity as a sophomore so this is his third year on varsity. And, he still finds time to “rock and roll” with his guitar in their little band.
I get praise from her music teachers all the time about her violin and piano skills. She was in a competition/performance last week. She loved it. Her piano teacher always is worrying about her spraining her fingers playing basketball! But she loves the game and the camaraderie with the other girls on her team too much to think of giving it up.
Social? Are you kidding!? They always have something to do with friends every weekend. And Freddie has a girlfriend since he was a junior, and Lana has a boyfriend since the beginning of the semester.
Getting distracted? Getting into the wrong crowd? Drinking or doing drugs? Being SEXUAL!? Yes to some degree like all parents, but actually, not too much.
Because I know who they are. Because they know who they are… who they want to be.
“Time to get up.”
“Don’t forget to brush your hair.”
"Over there on the dresser.”
“Over there by the dryer.”
“There it is.”
(Tie one shoe… tie the other…)
“No time to make pancakes. Eat some cereal.”
“The newspaper article about the new school.”
“Time to go. Get your backpack”
“Showers in the afternoon maybe.”
“There’s crackers… and cheese in the refrigerator... and there’s fruit”
“If you get your homework done first.”
“Don’t forget soccer practice at 5 o’clock.”
“Eat your vegetables.”
“OK, but bedtime in 30 minutes.”
“Getting stuff ready for the picnic.”
“It was Anna.”
“I’m sorry honey, it’s time to get up. I know it’s hard, but it’s time to get up.”“There’s your favorite Spiderman shirt over there by the dryer. It’s nice and clean.”“Don’t ruin your dinner. There’s fruit… those purple grapes that you really like.”“Soccer practice at 5 o’clock. Give yourself enough time so you don’t have to be rushed.”“Is it a good game? OK, but bedtime in 30 minutes. You need your rest.”“Good night. Sweet dreams, honey. I love you.”
Acknowledgement and appreciation that it is difficult to wake up…Knowing and caring that your child has a favorite Spiderman shirt, and being delighted that he/she would be delighted to have it to wear…Nourishing with food while nurturing with a favorite (and healthy) treat…Caring about the potential upset to forewarn to help him/her avoid the stress of rush…Caring that he/she is passionate about his/her baseball game… and that he/she be well-rested…Caring to send him/her into his/her nightly rest with a last message of love…